Three Fears That Shape Your Leadership

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One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of the great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn’t do. – Henry Ford

The story is told of two explorers who were on a jungle safari when suddenly a ferocious lion jumped in front of them. “Keep calm” the first man whispered. “Remember what we read in that book on wild animals? If you stand perfectly still and look the lion in the eye, he will turn and run.” “Sure,” replied his companion. “You’ve read the book, and I’ve read the book. But has the lion read the book?”

What’s your phobia? For some it’s a fear of heights, or flying. For others it may be riding in an elevator, speaking in public, or Friday the 13th. For me, it’s spiders. I can handle most anything you throw my way, but for some reason spiders creep me out.

You will face many challenges as a leader. One the best discoveries to make on your leadership journey is that some of the things you were afraid of were, in fact, nothing to be afraid of at all. It’s as you grow and gain confidence in your talents and abilities that you can look back on some of your unfounded fears and smile. So what fears can actually make you a better leader? Here are three for your consideration.

The fear of thinking too big – This fear is rooted in the “what if?” mentality.

Donald Trump said, “I like thinking big. If you’re going to be thinking anything, you may as well think big.” That’s the rub with some leaders. They had rather play it safe with small thinking. After all, small thinking equals small risks. But big thinking requires big risks and big sacrifices. And did I mention the issue of pride? After all, as the logic goes, how would it look if I failed?

Let me ask you the question that’s been around for a while. What would you attempt if you knew that you could not fail? Leaders who think big had rather fail at attempting something big than succeed at something small. You overcome this fear of thinking too big with hard work and dedication. Don’t let the fear of thinking too big hold you back. Embrace your big ideas, goals, and dreams and see where they take you.

The fear of overestimating your potential – This fear is rooted in a “who me? mentality.

This is a fear that causes you to think too little of your gifts, talents, and leadership abilities. If you ever buy-in to the notion that you are not meant to be where you are, doing what you are doing, and possessing the skills to be there, you will never reach your full potential.

Winston Churchill said, “Continuous effort, not strength or intelligence- is the key to unlocking our potential.” Your potential is always fluid as you continue to grow. Your level of potential today is not the same as it was five years ago simply based on your growth. The bar will be higher five years out as your growth pattern continues. The key here is to have faith in your abilities and to never entertain negative thoughts or attitudes that would hold you back. Your potential will be unlimited when you take the limits off your potential.

The fear of empowering others – This fear is rooted in the “why them?” mentality.

Every smart leader understands the impact and importance of empowered teams. Empowered teams are more productive, create positive energy, and build morale in ways you can’t do when individuals are isolated from one another. But a fear of empowering others can undercut that culture and progress.

The fear of empowering others likely has less to do with your team than it does with your own insecurities or fear of not being in control. Whatever the reason; it’s a hindrance to your progress and success. But when you shed that fear and believe in your people, you can unleash your team to do what they were meant to do. Empowering others begins as you overpower your fears.

Every leader faces fear. That’s common. How you respond to your fear will determine the shape of your leadership. Don’t be afraid to think big, be confident in yourself and your abilities, and empower others. When you do fear can’t win.

 

© 2014 Doug Dickerson

 

I welcome your feedback:

1. What fears have held you back on your journey as a leader?

2. How can you work to overcome them?

3. How can you help others overcome their fears?

 

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Leadership Minute: Back to the Basics

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Surround yourself with the best people you can find, delegate authority, and don’t interfere as long as the policy you’ve decided upon is carried out. – Ronald Reagan

In leadership this is about as straightforward as it can get. It’s simple, clear, and yet uniquely profound. Leaders who fail at this do so because they have dropped the ball on one of these levels. It’s been said that leadership is hard. But it doesn’t have to be complicated. Success as a leader contains a mixture of these three components. When for whatever reason one of these elements is lacking you must move quickly to identify it, solve it, and move on. It’s when we neglect the basics of leadership that things go awry. Do yourself and those around you a big favor – get back to the basics. Don’t complicate the simple. Return to the practices that got you where you are today. Be great at the basics.

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Leadership Minute: Breaking Down Big Thinking

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I like thinking big. If you’re going to be thinking anything, you might as well think big. – Donald Trump

Your achievement is proportional to your thinking. Until you embrace big thinking you will not see big results. Of course, big thinking doesn’t guarantee big results but it is the starting place. Big thinking, like big dreams, requires more. You can’t just think it or dream it. You have to devise a plan and go to work. But big thinking is foundational to your success. Big thinking or ideas is nothing more than a series of accumulated incremental steps in the process toward that end. Begin by asking the basic questions: What can I do today? Who can help me? What resources do I have? What resources do I need? What changes do I need to make? How soon?, etc. Start asking and start answering. Create your plan and work your plan. Think big, grow big, and work to be big. There is no other way. But it all starts with big thinking.

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Leadership Minute: Self-Revelation

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The circumstances of life, the events of life, and the people around me in life do not make me the way I am, but reveal the way I am. – Sam Peeples, Jr.

It’s been said that we will be known by the company we keep. As leaders we come across all types of people all the time. On any given day you can be thrown into events, circumstances, and situations that require your attention. But those events and circumstances don’t define you- they reveal you.  How you deal with these things reveals the depth of your maturity and validates your leadership. Self-awareness as a leader occurs when you understand that your preparation as a leader is an inside job.  Commit yourself to personal growth by the books you read, the mentors you have, and your unyielding dedication to excellence. As you apply what you learn then it won’t matter the circumstances you face because you will be ready.

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Leadership Minute: Make a Difference

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I’ve learned if you want success you can’t chase it. Instead you must decide to make a difference where you are…and success will find you. – Jon Gordon

It’s not uncommon to look around and see people chasing –chasing their fortune, fame, success, recognition, etc. Perhaps it’s out of restlessness or some other motivating factor. The chase can often be driven by a sense that the grass is greener on the other side. And often the chase ends with disappointment when they learn that it’s not. So before you go chasing after greener grass elsewhere why not fully devote yourself and make a difference where you are today. The greener grass you are looking for is right under your feet. Today the grass may be dried out, brown, or non-existent, but it’s why you are there. Commit to making a difference where you are. Be the change you want to see and you will make it. Be the hope that others are looking for. You can make a difference right where you are.

 

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Leadership Minute: Filling In The Gaps

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What are the gaps in my knowledge and experience? – Charles Handy

Are you experiencing intentional growth as a leader? We all want to grow, stretch, and learn all that we can. But is that enough? In order to be most effective as a leader it’s important to be growing in the right areas. Strong points are strong points and they will always serve you well. But if you really want to grow and increase your effectiveness and influence then you need to identify your gaps and learning curves. What are the areas you need to strengthen? What actions can you take today to increase your knowledge? Who can help you? It’s when you fill in the gaps that you begin to grow. Don’t just identify the areas in which you need help; take the needed actions that will give you the necessary knowledge and experience. Your growth as a leader depends on it.

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4 Things Your Employees Don’t Need From You

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What a pleasure life would be to live if everybody would try to do only half of what he expects others to do. – William J.H. Boetcker

A story from Bits & Pieces tells of a manager and a sales rep standing and looking at a map on which colored pins indicate the company representatives in each area. “I’m not going to fire you, Wilson,” the manager said, “but I’m loosening your pin just to emphasize the insecurity of the situation.” That, of course, is a light-hearted reminder of the complexity of the employer/employee relationship.

Ask most people at their place of business what they need from their employers to be more successful or productive on the job and they will be quick to tell you. But when you ask them what they don’t need in order to be more productive is when things get interesting.  Not long ago I asked a group of workers what they didn’t need in order to succeed. It was eye-opening exercise you should try.

Writing in a Harvard Business Review blog (http://bit.ly/1rEOqqS), Gretchen Gavett reported on the findings of the American Psychological Association’s new “Work and Well-Being Survey”. The good news out of their report is that 70 percent of people are satisfied with their jobs. But once you look below the surface there are a few troubling signs.

“Although almost two-thirds of employees feel their company treats them fairly,” writes Gavett, “other aspects don’t look so good. More than half feel like their employer isn’t open and upfront, a third feel that their organization isn’t always honest and truthful. One in four say they don’t trust their employer at all, and that’s a big deal.”

While intuitively we should know that open communication and trust are essential to good employer/employee relationships it still resurfaces as an issue to address. Knowing what your people need to succeed is important, but also knowing what they don’t need from you will certainly help. Here are four things to start with.

Your negative attitude

In as much as positive attitudes are contagious so are negatives ones. If you make it a habit to circulate among your people with a bad attitude, always finding fault, only focusing on what’s wrong, then your presence will be a demoralizing factor. The truth be told, your people may have every tool they need to succeed but if you have a negative attitude then it is hindering them. Among my informal survey this was the most cited response.

Your indifference

Everyone likes to be appreciated, valued, and wants to believe that their work makes a difference. But if you come across as indifferent to their work, ideas, and contributions then you are sending signals that they are unimportant to you. If you place no value in your people then how can you expect them to place value in their work? Indifference breeds indifference and the results will be devastating.

Your Obstruction

Your leadership style will either facilitate the progress of your people or it will stand in their way. If you burden people down with unnecessary policies and procedures, time-wasting meetings, or ill-timed interruptions then you are in the way. Your employees should not be made to pay the price for your poor time management skills. Don’t allow the “tyranny of the urgent” to be an obstruction to your people.

Your Inconsistencies

While most of your people will never speak up about this don’t mistake it for not noticing. Inconsistent actions by management always send the wrong message. When you communicate one thing and do another then you have planted doubt and mistrust in the minds of your people. Your employees don’t need mixed messages. It only creates confusion and animosity.

So, what’s the bottom line? What do your employees need? From their management team they need leaders with positive attitudes who see the good and bad and know how to address both. They need engaged leaders who know their business without being in their business. They need leaders who clear paths towards success and goal achievement without creating barriers. They need strong leaders who fairly and consistently put forth the values, vision, and best practices of the organization so that everyone can succeed.

What do you say?

 

©2014 Doug Dickerson

I welcome your feedback:

1. What additional things would you add to the list?

2. How can employers do a better job building relationships with their employees?

3. What are some best practices that you can share that have been helpful in your experience?

 

 

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Leadership Minute: Bouncing Back

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Do you, as a leader, bounce back quickly from setbacks? – Bob Rosen

As a leader, the question is not whether you will have setbacks, but when you do, how quickly will you bounce back? It happens to all of us and it comes with the territory. Your resilience as a leader is crucial to your success. You and I have choices to make when faced with setbacks. We can let it get us down and discourage us to the point of giving up. Or, we can get up, dust ourselves off and get moving. None of us are exempt from setbacks so you need to stop with any notions that they are not supposed to happen to you. Get over it. Bouncing back from setbacks means you were doing something worthwhile and encountered an obstacle. Don’t let it throw you off your game or keep you from reaching your goal. How long will it take you to bounce back? That is entirely up to you. But the sooner you bounce back the sooner you will reach your goal. Get moving!

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Leadership Minute: An Eye For Potential

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Do you see more potential in people than they do in themselves?  – Adam Grant

This is one of the hallmarks of a good leader. Seeing more potential in others than they do in themselves can turn into a life-changing moment for the other person when you act on it. When you can help another person discover a talent or skill and help awaken that gift it can be a most rewarding experience. Having an eye for such potential requires looking beyond the surface. Now you are focusing on the other person’s passions, skills, talents, and giving voice to your recognition of it. Chances are the other person is aware of it also but perhaps hasn’t been ready to step out and act on it. Maybe fear has held them back. You can’t motivate them beyond what they are willing to do themselves, but you can encourage, challenge, and inspire them to put their gift into action. You could very well be the encourager someone needs today.

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