Personal Growth – Page 4 – Doug Dickerson on Leadership

Lifting the Lid Off Your Limitations

Posted June 5, 2023June 8, 2023
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Life has no limitations, except the ones you make. – Les Brown

During his first year of graduate study at the University of California, at Berkeley, George B. Dantzig (later known as the father of linear programming) arrived late for a statistic class. He saw two problems on the blackboard. Assuming they were homework, he copied them and a few days later turned in his solutions.

One Sunday morning about six weeks afterward, the professor appeared at Dantzig’s door, waving a manuscript. It turned out that the professor had merely written two examples of unsolvable problems on the blackboard. The work was Dantzig’s manuscript for publication.

The story is a great example of what we can achieve when we set our minds to something – but beyond that, what can happen when the label of “unsolvable” is removed from the conversation?

As much as I’m fascinated by the story and what Dantzig did, it also makes me wonder how many other classmates attempted to solve the problem and how many didn’t even make the effort due to the problems being labeled unsolvable.

Think for a moment about your own experiences. Can you think of a time when you attempted to do something but quit somewhere in the process because someone came along and convinced you that it couldn’t be done?

Now think for a moment about how that situation could have turned for you had you not listened to the voices of those imposing those limitations on you.

Amelia Earhart said, “The most effective way to do it, is to do it.” The great divide between stepping up and doing, and just wishing you could is found by embracing the courage to act. It’s all about lifting the lid off of your limitations. Click To Tweet

Lifting the lid off your limitations begins with identifying them. Here are two of the most common limitations lids you will face as a leader. Which one is holding you back?

The limitations of your own creation

The single greatest lid on your limitations is the ones you create in your own mind. When your fears and reservations play like reels on a loop in your own mind and it’s all that you entertain, it will hold you down at every turn. If you don’t win this battle, you will never lift the lid off your limitations and reach your full potential.

The limitations of others that you believe

Any person committed to growing and reaching their full potential will eventually hear the voices of those who say that what you are attempting to do can’t be done. They will try to convince you that your dream is too big or your dream is unattainable. At this point, at this crossroads, you have a choice to make. And the choice will either move you close to the direction of your dreams and goals or will hold you back.

Final Thoughts

Mark Twain advised, “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.” And this is the decision you must make. Keep away from people who belittle your ambitions, embrace a positive mindset, and never give up on your dreams.

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Fish Tales and Reclaiming Humility in Leadership

Posted May 18, 2023
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Nothing is more deceitful than the appearance of humility. It is often only the carelessness of opinion, and sometimes an indirect boast. – Jane Austen

Once when I was just a young boy, our family was all together visiting my grandparents. One of my favorite places to gather with the rest of my cousins was a big pond around the corner from their house.

The lake was far enough away to get out from under foot of the grown-ups but close enough to get back to quickly for a snack.

On this particular visit, I was about five or six. One morning, I made my way to the pond before my siblings and cousins and met a man fishing on the bank. Seeing that I had no fishing gear with me, he gave me a cane pole to use. The only catch was, there was no hook on it, just a clothespin.

About the time that some of the others joined me, the man caught a fish. Seizing an opportunity to play a joke, the man took the fish off of his hook and placed it on the clothespin attached to the line on my cane pole.

With all the glee that I could muster, I showed everyone the fish that I had just caught. My cousins were beside themselves in astonishment that I was able to catch a fish with only a clothespin for a hook.

All these years later, that fish tale continues to be laughed about with my cousins. Perhaps you have a fish tale that has taken on a life of its own or a story that has seen numerous revisions and embellishments.

Be it fish tales or tall tales, we have stories that we love to share, and the more embellishments the better.

But in the real world and in your leadership, a more humble approach needs to be embraced.

Patrick Lencioni observed, “People who have a sense of peace that their priorities are in the right place also have a sense of humility and a realistic view of life.” And this is exactly the outcome and by-product of humility-driven leadership.

When your priorities and values are rightly aligned, you can lead with a greater sense of humility and purpose. Click To Tweet

This is not a false humility that secretly craves attention, but a humility that willingly concedes the spotlight by putting someone else in it.

On a day-to-day basis, what does humility in leadership look like? Here are a few ways to tell:

The humble leader listens more, talks less
The humble leader takes less of the credit and more of the blame
The humble leader seeks collaboration and input
The humble leader lifts others and celebrates their success
The humble leader takes on the mindset of a student; never stops learning
The humble leader is forgiving and patient with the growth challenges and mistakes of others
The humble leader is willing to put a fish on your clothespin in order to make you look good

Final Thoughts

Over my decades in leadership, I’ve seen leaders of every stripe. But the ones who last are the ones who do not think more highly of themselves than they should. I think it’s time to reclaim humility in leadership.

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Don’t Give Up On Your Dreams

Posted May 4, 2023
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Ambition is the path to success. Persistence is the vehicle you arrive in. – Bill Bradley

I read a story about a turkey and a bull. One day a turkey was chatting with a bull. “I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree” sighed the turkey, “but I haven’t got the energy.”

“Well, why don’t you nibble on some of my droppings?” replied the bull. “They are filled with nutrients.”

The turkey pecked at a lump of dung and found it actually gave him enough strength to reach the lowest level.

The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch.

Finally, after the fourth night, the turkey was proudly perched at the top of the tree.

He was promptly spotted by a farmer who shot him out of the tree.

Moral of the story:

BS might get you to the top, but it won’t keep you there.

This funny story illustrates in some way the ambition that many people have – especially in leadership.

As a leader, it’s great to have goals, dreams, and aspirations. Every leader should. But the motives behind those aspirations are what you need to pay close attention to.

Here are a few reminders for leaders as you consider getting to the top.

There’s always a price to pay for your ambition

Your goals, dreams, and aspirations come with a price tag. In order to achieve them you must count the cost and be willing to pay it. Ambition alone will not get you to the top. But combine it with hard work and persistence, you can get there.

Not everyone will share your dream

In leadership, you quickly learn that not everyone shares your ambitions and some will question your motives. Resolve and settle these things in your own heart and mind in the beginning because there will be some days it’s all you have to hold onto. Your journey will not be understood by everyone and you have to be OK with that. Stay true to your dreams and don’t worry about those slinging manure.

Your success will make you a target

Just as the farmer spotted the turkey at the top of the tree and shot it down, you must understand that climbing the ladder of success will at times make you a target. Others will be jealous of your success. Some will resent you for leaving them behind- not everyone will pay the price and take the journey with you while others with impure motives, will want to see you fail. Keep climbing anyway!

Final Thoughts

Take to heart the wisdom from Mark Twain who said, “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people do always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great”. And this, in part, is the key to your success. Stay away from the people who belittle you or want to hold you back. You’ve got too much invested in your dreams and goals to allow others to hold you back.

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You Play Like You Practice

Posted April 28, 2023
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Practice isn’t the thing you do once you’re good. It’s the thing you do that makes you good. – Malcolm Gladwell, Outliers

Like most young kids growing up, I played my fair share of sports. Be it on the dusty baseball fields channeling our inner Hank Aaron or playing football all the while believing that we would be the next Roger Staubach.

In football practice, our coach would say to us, “Boys, if you’re gonna do it wrong, do it wrong the best you can!”. His statement puzzled me. We would go through our drills in practice and I was under the impression that he wanted it done right the first time.

But for whatever reason, there were always a few of us who just didn’t execute the drill properly. And while the coach could have chosen to be harsher in his disapproval, he opted for a more sympathetic approach for us boys just learning to play. Over time, the drills became more and more routine and our proficiency increased. That season our fierce little team went undefeated. Roger Staubach would have been proud.

I’ve heard it said in more recent years that you play as you practice. In terms of leadership, that can either be good or problematic. How you conduct yourself as a leader is important and the stakes are higher than the outcome of a rec league football game.

So when it comes to the practice of leadership, what should be your focus? What are the disciplines to pay attention to? Here are a few (in no particular order) worth your consideration.

Practice the discipline of humility

Rick Warren describes it this way, “Humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.” Humility in leadership empowers you to be authentic before others and it demonstrates that you are willing to set aside your ego for the sake of growth.

Practice the discipline of reading

It’s been said that leaders are readers. I agree. For leaders, the learning never ends. When you practice the discipline of reading you demonstrate that you are committed to your personal growth and development.

Practice the discipline of serving

The capacity of your leadership will always be tied to your willingness to serve. It’s when you place others first, and look out for the needs of others, that you will rise as a leader. If serving is beneath you then leading is beyond you. Click To Tweet

Practice the discipline of reflection

Your effectiveness as a leader will be gauged by your ability to think long. Reflection gives you the ability to put your present into focus and align your future with your values. Reflection keeps you grounded with purpose and clarity. This can be achieved through prayer or meditation.

Practice the discipline of generosity

Generous leaders are contagious leaders. Generous leaders practice an awareness that’s uncommon in most. They are observant of the needs of others and are always willing to give up their time and resources. In a self-absorbed culture, we need generous leaders now more than ever.

Practice the discipline of forgiveness

Leadership can be hard. So can life. And everyone is fighting a battle we know nothing about. The discipline of forgiveness can go a long way in establishing your leadership for the long haul. But know this, life is just too short to walk through it holding a grudge.

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Checking Your Bags

Posted April 14, 2023April 15, 2023
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We all have baggage. The question is: What baggage can you deal with? – Jaime Pressly

I recently took my first trip out of the country since Covid. As a person who loves to travel it was great to once again get the proverbial passport stamp and experience a different culture.

Belize is already hot as it’s summer there. But the trip was great, the water was beautiful, and snorkeling with the stingrays and sharks at Cay Caulker was a thrill.

When it comes to air travel, of course, the more things change, the more they stay the same. I’ve traveled the world, and prefer to travel as lightly as possible. But there comes that time you have to decide whether to check a bag, carry-on only, or both. One way or another, you have to decide what you’re going to do about your bags.

In leadership, as in life, you have to decide what you’re going to do with your baggage. We all have some and how we deal with it makes all the difference.

Here are a few lessons I’ve learned as a traveler and as a leader about carrying baggage. See if you can relate to any of the following.

Only pack the essentials

When traveling, it’s wise to only pack what you need. Keep it to the essentials. The lighter your load the farther and faster you can move. I’ve seen people pack for a week-long trip and you would have thought they were going to be gone for a month.

Leadership Tip: In leadership, excess baggage such as a poor attitude, grudges against a colleague, poor morale, etc. can weigh you and your organization down. In travel, excess baggage will cost you. It will cost you in your leadership as well. To move forward, you will have to have some items in your bags so you’d better be smart about it.

You don’t have to carry other people’s bags

You are not responsible for other people’s baggage. When maneuvering through an airport, you typically have all you can do to keep up with your own bags, much less anyone else’s. And, you never leave your bag unattended.

Leadership Tip: In leadership, you will deal with a variety of people with differing levels of baggage – some good, some not. It’s essential as a leader that you recognize that there will be some people who will try to bring their negative baggage with them into your culture. And once it gets in, it’s hard to get it out. Just as you go through screening at the airport, you have to screen and weed out negative influences and toxic people from within your organization.

Don’t weigh yourself down

We’ve come a long way over the years when it comes to moving about with luggage when traveling. You no longer have to bear the burden of heavy bags and moving about with them – think spinners.

Leadership Tip: In leadership, you want to utilize every tool at your disposal and surround yourself with people who can help move things along. You don’t have to be weighed down by outdated methods and procedures. You can lighten the load for yourself and others by checking your bags carefully and packing in such a way that everyone can benefit.

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The Courage To Find Your Voice

Posted March 19, 2023
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When the whole world is silent, even one voice becomes powerful. – Malala Yousafzai

By age 17, most teens are simply mustering up the courage to figure out where to go to college, whether or not to get a job, who to date, or are more concerned about their social media accounts.

But by the age of 17, Malala Yousafzai was the youngest Nobel Prize laureate. She was only the second Pakistani to receive it. By no means was she your typical 17-year-old. Her mission? Fighting and advocating for the rights of Pakistani women and children – especially for education.

In October 2012, Yousafzai and two other girls were shot in an assassination attempt on a bus after taking an exam in retaliation for her activism. Her physical recovery and therapy eventually took her to Birmingham, England. Afterward, she formed a non-profit and wrote an international best-selling book entitled, I Am Malala. Time magazine featured her as one of the most influential people in the world.

Not everyone’s life mission and purpose will be discovered in tragedy. But in the midst of hers, Malala found her voice and life calling.

Looking back on that singular event that changed her life, she said, “ I don’t want to be thought of as “the girl that was shot by the Taliban” but the “girl who fought for education.” This is the cause to which I want to devote my life.”

The courage to find your voice is essential in leadership. Not because of what it can do for you, but because of the good you can accomplish for others with it. Click To Tweet

President Harry Truman said, “Men make history and not the other way around. In periods where there is no leadership, society stands still. Progress occurs when courageous, skillful leaders seize the opportunity to change things for the better.” Truman’s words ring just as true and relevant today as when he spoke them.

The question for our day is whether we have the courage to find our voice. For each person, it will look different. But here are some common characteristics.

Finding your voice will empower you

The day you find your voice and lend it to a cause greater than yourself is the day you begin to make things better. For Malala it was and is for the cause of education for women and children. Your cause and your voice will be equally as important to you. As a leader, you will be empowered when you find your voice and move toward action.

Finding your voice will elevate you

Leaders who will be remembered are not those who sit in silence on the sidelines while things continue to get worse. It will be those who step up, speak up, roll up their sleeves, and work to make things better and say, Join me.” Finding your voice will not only elevate you but will also separate you from those who only talk.

Finding your voice will energize you

Finding your voice is tantamount to finding your passion. Your passion is what gives your voice conviction and credibility. When you find this courage you raise your stature as a leader and you become a force for good.

While not everyone will embrace your voice as was the case of Malala, don’t let it stop you. Be courageous. Find your voice and embrace it. With it, you may not be able to change the world, but you can make your world better with it.

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About My Altercation At The White House

Posted March 6, 2023March 6, 2023
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Conflict is drama, and how people deal with conflict shows you the kind of people they are. – Stephen Moyer

I believe the time is now right and any concern of repercussions would be covered by the statute of limitations.

It all started innocently enough while on a family vacation. Our tent was pitched at Bull Run in Prince William County near Manassas, Virginia.

We spent our days taking in all the sights in Washington, D.C. This also included a much anticipated White House tour.

I was only about 6 or 7 years old at the time. We were queued up in line to go inside the White House and when we arrived at the door to step inside, a guard greeted us. He reached out and patted my head and said, “Hello, curly.”

At that time, I had blondish-brown curly hair. The only thing I hated more than having curly hair was someone mentioning it. At the moment, I did not appreciate the “compliment” that he was paying me. I was offended and I let him know.

With all the strength that I could muster, I reared back and proceeded to kick this White House guard in the shin as hard as I could.

It was not the proudest moment in my young life and more than once I heard about it from my parents.

I’ve been back to Washington numerous times since and have stopped by the White House to take a picture, but have never been back inside. I hope to again someday, and, if so, I promise to be on my best behavior.

As leaders, we all have choices with regard to the way we handle conflict. You see it play out on a daily basis in your place of work where conflict and tensions seem to always be simmering just beneath the surface.

Recent research by The Myers-Briggs Company revealed that managers spend nearly 4 hours a week dealing with conflict on average.

The research included insights such as:

Poor communication is the number one reason for conflict
Nearly 1 in 4 people think that their managers handle conflict poorly or very poorly
The more time that an individual spent dealing with conflict at work, the lower their job satisfaction and the less included they felt

In this day and time, leaders can’t afford to be passive bystanders when conflicts are occurring all around them. There are some things that a leader can delegate for the sake of good organizational management, but when it comes to a healthy organizational culture – and preserving it, the ownership of it starts with the leadership.

Final Thoughts

Conflict is never easy but not all conflict is bad. Not every pat on the head is an act of hostility, and not every kick in the shin should be seen as a rebellion. People’s perspectives are different, and that’s why smart leaders are relentless communicators to bring out the best in others, discern the motives, and rally the team to its higher purpose.

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Leading Through a Crisis

Posted February 5, 2023
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Leadership is a matter of having people look at you and gain confidence, seeing how you react. If you’re in control, they’re in control. – Tom Landry

The wintry afternoon walk in the field out behind our house with my older sister started out like any other. I was about 10 years old. The field was a great place to play. There were plenty of trails to walk and ride our bikes. We built forts, shot our Daisy BB guns, and caught fireflies in Mason jars. This day, however, would be different.

As my sister and I exited the field before heading inside, I did something I’d done many times before with no thought. I pulled a tall weed out of the ground. But this time the weed didn’t budge. When the force of my pull met the resistance of the weed, it slit my finger open and laid the skin back.

As we approached the backyard my blue coat was already soaked in blood. I went to the water faucet and began rinsing my finger. “Don’t tell mom!” I shouted to my sister as I saw her run inside with no intention of following my command.

Once I went inside, my mother was already in a panic. She walked me up to the kitchen sink and told me to stand still. “I’ll be right back!” she exclaimed. Moments later she returned with a bottle of rubbing alcohol. “Hold your finger still”, she said. I was under the impression that she would perhaps pour just a little on the cut. I was wrong.

With the best intentions that a loving mother could conjure up at that moment, she emptied the entire contents of that bottle of rubbing alcohol onto my finger as I screamed. Which was just prior to my fainting on the kitchen floor.

My mother – God rest of her sweet, loving soul up in heaven, meant well. And in my moment of crisis, she did the best she knew how.

As a leader, there are two things you can be certain of – 1) You will face moments of crisis, and 2) Your people will be looking to you for confidence. So what do you do in a crisis? Here are a few practical ideas.

Stay calm

Remember, in times of crisis, your people will take their cues from you. From you, they need to see steadiness, resolve, and confidence. They don’t need to see you running for the doors. Or reaching for the alcohol.

Assess the situation

In times of crisis, you want to gather as much information as you can as quickly as you can. Gather your key people, ascertain what you know, separate fact from fiction, and start developing your action steps.

Communicate clearly

A good plan poorly communicated will only make matters worse. Click To TweetMake sure everyone knows the plan and everyone knows their role. Don’t assume anything.

Empower your people

Your people will gain confidence when you place your confidence in them. You can inspire your team by empowering your team. A time of crisis is not the time for a one-man show. Walk through the crisis with your people and you will make your team stronger.

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What Floyd Dean-Shannon Taught Us About Leadership

Posted January 23, 2023
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In a world where you can be anything, be kind. – Unknown

Perhaps you saw the story recently on social media. It was one of those feel-good stories that just restores faith in humanity on many levels.

It begins with a post showing Delta Airlines flight attendant Floyd Dean-Shannon sitting in the aisle on a flight from Charlotte, N.C. to New York City holding the hand of a nervous passenger.

“I’ve got you,” he’s quoted as saying as he gives comfort and reassures the nervous passenger that everything was going to be fine. He took the time to explain every noise and bump as he held her hand.

The beauty of the moment didn’t go unnoticed by fellow passengers who were so touched by this act of kindness that they couldn’t help but capture the moment to share with the rest of us.

It’s probably safe to say that Floyd Dean-Shannon didn’t set out that day to be declared a hero on social media for his act of kindness toward a total stranger. He’d probably just say that he was doing his job. But I hope that the rest of us won’t soon forget it.

John Maxwell said, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” And this is precisely what Floyd Dean-Shannon modeled. Here are a few additional leadership lessons we can learn from his actions that day.

Acts of kindness don’t diminish your leadership, it elevates it

We must never embrace the false notion that strong leaders don’t have the capacity for being kind. Not only did Dean-Shannon prove it, but judging by the response, it’s refreshing to see. In leadership, being kind is an asset, not a liability.

People are your business

Howard Behar, the former vice president at Starbucks said, “We are not in the coffee business serving people, we are in the people business serving coffee.” And this is the leadership lesson found at this moment. It always has been and always will be about people and how best to serve them.

One person truly can make a difference

Perhaps the greatest lesson that Floyd Dean-Shannon taught us is that one random act of kindness by one person truly can make a difference. But when we couple random acts of kindness with intentional acts of kindness soon big changes are made.

Mother Teresa said, “I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the waters to create many ripples.” As leaders, this is our challenge – to create ripples that make a difference. Thank you, Floyd Dean-Shannon for showing us how.

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What To Do With Disruptions

Posted January 11, 2023January 13, 2023
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People don’t want to buy a quarter-inch drill. They want a quarter-inch hole. – Theodore Levitt

It all started innocently enough with a text from my daughter sending me a picture of a beagle puppy. “She belongs in our family,” she exclaimed. “Isn’t she cute?” she insisted. This was her subtle way of saying that this “cute” puppy didn’t belong in her home with her husband and her kids, but rather in mine. What could possibly go wrong?

Against my better judgment, this firehose of a puppy whom we named Lucy, came to live in our home. And just like that, disruptive forces were unleashed.

Perhaps my routines and settled ways of living were severely taken for granted, but suddenly everything changed – like sleep patterns, meal time, quiet evenings, etc. Lucy was and at times remains a disruptive force to be reckoned with.

In leadership, you will have times of disruption. There’s really no escaping it. And when it happens, how you handle it matters. When disruptions occur, perhaps you should invoke what I call the L.U.C.Y. approach.

Lean into the disruption.

Many variables are likely at play when disruptions happen in your organization or to you personally. Often, disruptions are simply manifestations of other underlying issues at hand. While there can be things you don’t see or choose to ignore, disruptions in leadership need to be assessed. Lean in and get perspective.

Understand the disruption.

Once you lean in and figure out what’s behind the disruption you’re experiencing, it’s now time to understand how and why you got to this place in time. The greater your understanding the better you can lead. But also know this – not all disruptions are bad and can actually serve a greater purpose if you allow it.

Clarify the challenges

Often in leadership, the root causes of disruptions are never addressed. Perhaps it’s just easier to look the other way or pretend the problem doesn’t exist. Obviously, that’s not good leadership, but it’s a default approach for many leaders. But in moments of disruption a leader needs to bring clarity to the situation, not denial. Once you lean in and understand the disruption that’s taking place you can now bring clarity as to how you’re going to handle it.

You set the tone

As a leader, you set the tone for your organization. Will disruptions within your organization occur? Yes. Will you have to contend with disruptive personalities? Yes. But as the leader, it’s up to you to set the tone that others will follow. Understanding your role and having this perspective at the forefront of your leadership mindset is critical to your success and the success of your team.

Final Thoughts

John Maxwell was right when he said, “There is strength in numbers, but organizing those numbers is one of the great challenges.” What disruptions are you facing today? How are you responding to them?

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