Five Passion-Busters Every Leader Must Face

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If you don’t love what you do, you won’t do it with much conviction or passion. – Mia Hamm

Sir Edmund Hillary was the first man to conquer Mt. Everest. When asked by an interviewer about his passions for climbing mountains he replied, “It’s not the mountain we conquer, but ourselves.” This is both the challenge and the reward for all leaders. It’s as we conquer ourselves that we are then able to conquer the challenges that are before us.

Passion is your life-blood as a leader. It’s what keeps you up late at night and gets you up early in the morning. It’s the fuel for your motivation and is the heartbeat of your purpose. But what happens when your passions begin to wane?

A recent survey reported on by ABC News (http://abcn.ws/1ruBIys) would suggest that many American workers feel overwhelmed and dream of a new job. The survey was conducted by the Families and Work Institute. They phone surveyed 1,003 U.S. adult workers. They report that 28 percent often or very often felt overworked. The same amount reported feeling overwhelmed by their jobs or very often, and 29 percent said they often felt they had no time to reflect on their work. It also revealed that 70 percent say they often dream of having a different job.

When these types of sentiments are commonplace in our work environments then the key ingredient of passion is rapidly becoming a rare commodity. Employers as well as employees need to be mindful of some of the warning signs before they take root and claim another victim. So what are some of the warning signs? There are many. Here are five for your consideration.

Uncharacteristic boredom

I am not talking about the run-of-the-mill boredom that high achievers are prone to experience or even that of some slackers. In this category would be those who once were all in but for whatever reason are now disengaged. The spark and creativity is gone. A disconnect has occurred.  Perhaps the sense of accomplishment has passed and a new challenge is in order. Boredom will drain you of your passion so be sure not to let it linger for long.

Ambivalent attitude

When passion is declining and boredom has taken over then ambivalence will soon follow. If uncertainty or fluctuation in a team member’s level of commitment or enthusiasm exists then you best pay attention. Ambivalence is a red flag indicator and if left unchallenged it can be a negative force that can easily spread. In the case of ambivalence the energy source changes from a positive to a negative. If this is occurring then chances are passions are running low. Key here is to drill down and find out why.

Overly critical

You need positive passionate people on your team. A warning sign of decreased passion is when it changes from being constructive to being destructive. When what was once constructive criticism now becomes malicious then that is a sure sign that passion has eroded. This type of temperament within your organization must be contained. Passion that is channeled in the right direction can give your organization unprecedented opportunities but overly critical team members can kill its momentum.

Reduction of quality work

If a team member is bored, ambivalent, and overly critical then it will soon be reflected in their work. Your work is a reflection of your passion. When your passions are high and your morale is good then your performance will reflect it. Pay attention to subtle changes in these areas for warning signs that could indicate there are passion issues. If dealt with early it can stave off larger problems down the road.

Consistently unhappy

If any combination of the above signs is part of the mix for you or your team members then it would not be much of a stretch to conclude that there is a consistent level of unhappiness involved. It could be the result of conclusions expressed in the survey – being overworked, overwhelmed, stressed out – all factors that lead to varying degrees of diminished passion.

What’s important is to remove the stigma of diminished passions, recognize it for what it is, and then go to work on correcting it. Your passions are your greatest assets so protect them at all costs. Take time to recharge, refresh, and then re-enter with renewed passion.

What do you say?

 

© 2014 Doug Dickerson

I welcome your feedback:

1. Which signs did you most identify with?

2. What are some immediate corrective actions you can take?

3. What are some on-going preventive things you can to keep from falling victim to a lack of passion?

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Facing Down Your Fears

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In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure. – Bill Cosby

A story is told of two explorers who were on a jungle safari when suddenly a ferocious lion jumped in front of them. “Keep calm” the first explorer whispered. “Remember what we read in that book on wild animals? If you stand perfectly still and look the lion in the eye, he will turn and run.” “Sure,” replied his companion, “You’ve read the book, and I’ve read the book. But has the lion read the book?”

Most leaders I know are familiar with fear. Not that they live in a constant state of fear or paranoia, but it is a part of the leadership experience that defines them. Fear will either motivate you or it will dishearten you. How you choose to react to the fears you face will determine its effect on you.

Your success as a leader will come when you embrace your fears and turn them into positives. Do you know what your fears are? Are you willing to confront them? Until you honestly confront them you will never overcome them. So what are the most common forms of fear for leaders? Let’s look at two and their surprising connections.

Two Common Fears:

Fear of failure

Every business person, entrepreneur, athlete, leader, etc. has a desire to be successful. Regardless of how that success is measured the desires are still the same. But a fear of failure is the most commonly shared fear that prevents those dreams from being fulfilled. If left unchallenged it will always hold you back.

Often the fear of failure is a pride issue. The rationale is rooted in what others will say or think if you try something and fail. Certainly other considerations are at stake such as financial, etc. but fear of failure will ground you every time.

Fear of rejection

Besides a fear of failure the fear of rejection is an all too common fear that many struggle with. When the humiliation of rejection is a more powerful deterrent than the potential for success then fear has won. So what happens? People hold back. They sit out. They allow fear to dictate their decisions.

Like your attitude, fear is a neutral emotion that is turned into something good or bad depending on how you respond. Healthy attitudes and fears can serve you well if you use them properly. So what is the connection?

Two Common Connections:

While countless examples could illustrate the point let’s look at two. These people embody what can happen when we allow our fears to motivate us rather than discourage us.

A famous “failure”

He first went into politics at the age of 23. He ran for a seat in the Illinois General Assembly. He lost. He later ran a General Store. It failed. But today, not too many people look back upon those events and use them to label the 16th President of the United Sates as a failure. Abraham Lincoln is recognized as one of our most beloved presidents in history. He experienced failure, but he was not a failure. And he did not allow those failures to define him.

A famous “reject”

He dropped out of high school and applied to attend three film schools but was unsuccessful due to his C grade average. But if you have been entertained by such movies as E.T., Jurassic Park, Schindler’s List, Saving Private Ryan, and many more, then you’d agree with me and the critics that Steven Spielberg is one of the greatest film directors of all time. Spielberg was rejected, but he was not a reject. He didn’t allow his setbacks to hold him back.

The connection between fear and success comes down to this: every successful movie director, politician, athlete, entrepreneur, etc. have all faced their fears and have overcome them. Your success as leader will not be characterized by an absence of fear but by what you did with it.

Denis Waitley said, “Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.”

Do you have fears? Welcome to the club. It’s time to roll up your sleeves, dig deep, and stare them down. Don’t allow your fears to hold you back, turn them into stepping stones to take you to the places you want to go.

 

© 2014 Doug Dickerson

 

I welcome your feedback:

1. What fear do you struggle with the most?

2. What steps can you take to change the way you look at fear?

 

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Leadership Minute: Lead Yourself

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You can have no dominion greater or less than that over yourself – Leonardo da Vinci

It’s the first rule of leadership that yields to no one. If you wish to lead others you first must lead yourself. After all, the hardest person you will ever lead is not the jerk down the hall that drives you nuts it’s most likely the one in the mirror. Pay attention to the people that get on your nerves. What irritates you the most about them could be your struggle as well. You see, it’s easy and convenient for us to point out the flaws and weaknesses in others but overlook that same weakness in ourselves- or worse yet, justify them. An authentic leader will develop his or her disciplines, be held to a higher standard, be held accountable, and lead by example. Before leading others, lead yourself.

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Leadership Minute: Hang in There

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Perseverance, secret of all triumphs. – Victor Hugo

Perseverance is not one of the more glamorous leadership traits. In fact; it can be downright brutal. As leaders we are taught to take Frost’ advice and journey down the road less traveled. But what happens when the road less traveled is traveled less and less by those who are supposed to be leading the way? While perseverance may not be pretty it is a necessity. We need leaders today who have a stick-with-it attitude. We need leaders who are not afraid to put it all on the line and stay the course. The power of perseverance will see you through the good times and bad, but in the end you will be rewarded with a level of success others only dream about. Today you might be tempted to throw in the towel and give up. Don’t. Your leadership can go to a new level but only as you persevere.

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Leadership Minute: Your Task at Hand

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Do not pray for tasks equal to your powers. Pray for powers equal to your tasks. – Phillips Brooks

What is your BHAD (Big Hairy Audacious Dream)? You see I am convinced that many a leader settles for that which they know they can achieve. And while that may be good and noble it’s not big. It’s not audacious. It’s not far-reaching enough and does not necessitate much prayer. I’d like to challenge you today to have such a BHAD that is scares you to pray like you have never prayed before. Reverse your prayers for strength to do what you can do and pray for strength and wisdom to do what you know you can’t do by yourself and without divine intervention. Increase the size of your dream. Dare to pray big prayers and dare to do great things.

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Leadership Minute: Are You Contributing?

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Life is not about accumulation, it is about contribution – Stephen Covey

Great leaders understand this. Many leaders starting out make the mistake of thinking that the end game is about what you accumulate; wealth, power, position, etc. But your significance as a leader is not defined by those characteristics. How are you contributing? This is the essential and greater question of your leadership. It’s not about what you are gathering but rather in what you are giving. And once you settle the issue of how you can contribute and add value to those around you then the other less important things will take care of themselves. Focus on ways in which you can be more generous and add value to others. After all, you are not going to take anything with you. It’s what you leave behind that matters most.

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Leadership Minute: Show Respect

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Respect for ourselves guides our morals; respect for others guides our manners. – Laurence Sterne

One of the most noble leadership skills you can have and develop is that of respect. Respect for yourself establishes your guiding principles and sets the course for your leadership style. On that count, respect is very important. Once established internally you then begin to lead externally from those values. A great leader is a respectful leader. Clearly you will not like everyone, nor will you always approve of other people’s actions, but respect for them sets the framework for how you deal with them. Respect establishes your credibility as a leader and is the origin of your manners. Your leadership style will make you or break you. When respect is your guiding light you can’t go wrong.

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Leadership Minute: Prepare by Learning

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Prepare for the unknown by studying how others in the past coped with the unforeseeable and the unpredictable. – General George S. Patton

As a leader you will frequently walk in the unknown and unforeseeable. While it may be scary at times you can navigate those periods with the skill and wisdom you have gathered in times of preparation. Many a great leader before you have been tested with things they didn’t anticipate. How they handled times of adversity can be sources of inspiration for you. What challenges are you facing today? As you learn from their examples you can apply those lessons to your current situation. Preparation is the key to your success. Walk with confidence knowing that the lessons you have learned have equipped you for the challenges before you.

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Leadership Minute: Listen Up

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When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen. – Ernest Hemmingway

Listening is one of those ever-developing leadership skills. In our high tech world the art of undistracted listening is a waning skill. Listening is one of the highest compliments you can pay to another person. This means putting away your cell phone or tablet and actually making eye contact while acknowledging the other person. To the same degree we expect people to listen when we speak we should extend the same courtesy to others. People will feel respected when they are respected.  Give the other person your undivided attention and hear what they have to say. You will be seen as a leader who cares and you will build your credibility as one who is engaged. Tune out distractions so that you can tune in to what’s really important. Listen up!

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