Carey Nieuwhof – Doug Dickerson on Leadership

What I believe is that all clear-minded people should remain two things throughout their lifetimes: Curious and teachable. – Roger Ebert

An article in Pew Research revealed about a quarter of American adults (24%) haven’t read a book in whole or in part in the past year, whether in print, electronic or audio form. Think it’s just the younger generation not reading? Not so fast. The survey revealed that older adults are a bit more likely than their younger counterparts not to read a book. The survey revealed that some 28% of adults ages 50 and older haven’t read a book in the past year.

As an avid reader and author of books, I find the results of this survey both disappointing and revealing. Do these statistics surprise you?

As a leader, the one thing that will give you a distinct advantage both personally and professionally is that you are teachable. Your personal growth and development are non-negotiable if you are a leader who desires to succeed.

It’s important to keep in mind that your growth and development is the result of intentional behaviors that you embrace. You have to be disciplined. So what are some of the habits of teachable leaders that must be embraced? Here are seven for your consideration.

Teachable leaders are readers

You can come up with every excuse in the book (pardon the pun), but teachable leaders are readers. There are just too many options now available not to. From traditional prints books, audio, or on your device, there’s no shortage of access or books, blogs, and magazines to choose from. If you are not teachable and reading then how can you effectively lead the people who are? Click To Tweet (See my current reading list below)

Teachable leaders are listeners

It’s part of a leaders responsibility to talk, engage, articulate vision, etc. which requires being out front and being the voice that brings clarity to the mission. But what’s equally as important if not more so, is being a good listener. How else are you going to know what’s on the hearts and minds of your people other than by listening to them? When you cultivate the art of listening, you demonstrate a teachable attitude. Talk less, listen more.

Teachable leaders are humble

The older I get the more I’ve come to realize just how much I don’t know. It’s humbling. Over the years, I’ve come across people who think that they are “experts” on everything. No matter what the subject, they seemed to know it all. Teachable leaders, on the other hand, are wise enough to know their limitations and are willing to surround themselves with those who complement them and make them better. A teachable leader has the self-awareness to know that they don’t possess all the answers and are humble enough to keep learning and growing.

Teachable leaders ask a lot of questions

For the teachable leader, this is where genuine humility pays off. Teachable leaders ask a lot of questions because they want to keep growing. The advantage teachable leaders have over others is the ability to set aside pride and humble themselves and ask the questions others won’t. Click To Tweet It’s in the asking of questions – not in your silence- that growth takes place.

Teachable leaders have positive attitudes

Nothing will get in the way of the learning process more than a bad attitude. Henry Ford was right when he said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.” As a leader, your attitude will be your greatest asset or the greatest liability that holds you back. You choose it and you own it. Teachable leaders will succeed or fail, by and large, with their attitude.

Teachable leaders seek wise counsel

In as much as teachable leaders are readers, they also understand that they need people speaking truth into their lives. A teachable leader seeks out the counsel of people who can give them guidance and insights from their experiences. As leaders, we all need people in our lives who can inspire us, challenge us, and hold us accountable. Click To Tweet

Teachable leaders are lifelong students

Class is always in session for the teachable leader. Once you discover the joy of a teachable spirit then you will never stop growing.

These seven habits can put your leadership journey on a whole new path of fulfillment. Embrace these habits and watch your influence grow.

Are you a teachable leader?

Here’s what I am currently reading:

Leader Shift: The Eleven Essential Changes Every Leader Must Embrace by John Maxwell

Didn’t See It Coming: Overcoming The 7 Greatest Challenges That No One Expects And Everyone Experiences by Carey Nieuwhof

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The most fruitful and natural exercise for our minds is, in my opinion, conversation. – Michel de Montaigne, The Essay: A Selection

As I was being escorted to a table in a restaurant not long ago, I passed by a family seated at a long table. There must have been five or six gathered around. What struck me as I passed by was not that they were all together or that they were laughing and talking and otherwise engaged with one another. Sadly, it was an all too familiar sight.

Every person at the table had their smartphone device in their hand and was using it. No conversations were taking place. It was just a group of people sitting together, but very far removed from one another.

According to Google, a survey by Pew Research Center revealed that many people find phone usage during dinner obnoxious. Of those people surveyed, 88 percent think it is okay to use a phone during dinner and 82 percent thinks that using a phone in social settings can hurt conversations.

I realize that we are addicted to our devices. I am clear-eyed in my understanding that it’s just a part of the fabric of our culture for better or worse.

Be it because of our electronic devices or any other distractions that come along, we are increasingly losing the art of meaningful conversation. It takes a toll on relationships, and yes, it can take a toll on your leadership if you are not careful.

Writing in his book, Didn’t See It Coming, bestselling author, Carey Nieuwhof devotes a chapter as to why so many us feel alone and to the demise of genuine conversation. He writes about what many have come to know. He writes:

“Sadly, conversations seem to be developing into an exchange of monologues among people who don’t seem terribly interested in one another. People today appear to be talking at one another more than they’re talking with one another. Next time you’re in a conversation with someone, wait to see how often you get asked a question.”

What about you? What’s been your experience with this issue?

From a leadership point of view, I believe having meaningful conversations is one of the key ingredients to developing effective leadership skills. Here’s why I think it so important and why we must return to them.

Meaningful conversations put you squarely in the moment

Unlike an email that can be put off or an incoming call or text that can be ignored, meaningful face to face conversation puts you in the moment as nothing else can Click To Tweet. It’s your chance to give someone else your undivided attention. Be in the moment.

Meaningful conversations give you the necessary context

There’s just no substitute for meaningful conversations. It gives you the advantage of understanding fully from the source in a way that other forms of communication can’t deliver. Meaningful conversation strips away any chance of misunderstanding when you’re engaged with the source. Leadership in context is invaluable. Click To Tweet

Meaningful conversations teach you to slow down and listen

Leaders are busy people. Too busy at times. But when you engage in meaningful conversation it’s sharpening this all-important leadership skill. Too often our thoughts are elsewhere and we are not really tuned in when talking with our people. Meaningful conversations are not rushed. They’re thoughtful. It may try your patience or seem inconsequential to you, but it can make all the difference to the one you are conversing with. Slow down and listen.

Meaningful conversations enhance trust

Nothing can build trust like meaningful conversations. They accomplish more than the tech devices that supposedly making communicating easier. Trust is the glue that binds your organization together and gives your leadership the credibility its due. Don’t allow your busy schedule or other demands rob you of this most essential leadership ingredient. Initiate meaningful conversations. Have meaningful conversations. Build trust.

Meaningful conversations are all about relationships

The secret sauce in leadership is relationships. It’s all about people. The depth of your relationships in large part depends upon the depth of your conversations. Let the focal point of your conversations be more about the people you lead. Listen more. Talk less. When the people you lead have your ear, you will have their heart. Click To Tweet Don’t pretend it’s all about you. It’s not. You will build stronger relationships by having more meaningful conversations.

It’s time to get back to meaningful conversations. Your leadership depends on it.

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